Unframed

About the book

In his provocative and introspective work, Unframed, Thibault S.W. traces his personal journey of transformation. Rooted in real-life experiences, this bold book courageously explores the often-taboo frontiers of the swinging scene and open sexuality, while delving into the tender and complex world of romantic and polyamorous relationships. Thibault S.W. openly addresses the struggles for gender equality and the fight against gender stereotypes, offering a profound reflection on what it means to love freely in a world undergoing deep change. This book is an invitation to rethink conventions, to break free from the chains of social norms, and to embrace a life where freedom and love meet without barriers.

About the Author

Thibault S.W. is a trainer, teacher, and coach specializing in couple relationships, multiple relationships, and open sexuality. In his practice, he also works on issues of masculinity. With an approach rooted in his own experiences and discoveries, Thibault has helped many people rethink the way they live and love. Committed to the fight for equality and a deeper understanding of gender dynamics, he explores in his writings the paths toward authentic freedom—inviting his readers to move beyond convention and fully embrace their individuality.

Excerpts

"Swinging, contrary to the image we may have of it, is not just a succession of anonymous bodies and fleeting pleasures. It is also a space where we can create authentic connections , where the freedom to explore does not stop at sex but extends to human relationships, exchange, sharing, complicity. These encounters reminded me that, even in a sometimes chaotic universe, it is possible to build deep, lasting bonds , based on respect, kindness and honesty."

"The liberated woman, and even more so the libertine woman, remains a subject of profound questioning and misunderstanding. In a society that theoretically advocates emancipation, we still see a visceral resistance to the idea that a woman can live her sexuality as she sees fit, without justification or constraint. Why is there still so much judgment on these women who choose to embrace their desires and explore their freedom? Why does sexual freedom, although widely accepted among men, become a taboo, a source of contempt or suspicion when it concerns a woman?"

"For me, love has long been that moment of bliss of the heart, that intense whirlwind I felt for a girl when I was young, a woman today. Love was that vibrant, overwhelming feeling of excitement and tenderness mixed together, an irresistible force that invaded me entirely. It was that bittersweet obsession that prevents reflection, that devours thoughts, that transforms each heartbeat into an explosion of joy, anticipation, and sometimes even anxiety. This mixture of uncontrollable emotions, this vertigo, this inner fire, I have sought it, waited for it, hoped for it in every significant encounter in my life."

"The influence of toxic masculinity isn't limited to interpersonal relationships or individual behaviors. It's deeply rooted in the power structures that govern the world. From politics to economics, from war to mechanisms of social domination, the model of masculinity is imposed as the norm."

View from a reader

After his divorce, the author meets a woman who shakes up his world. He begins exploring libertine clubs and the secret world of sex — its codes, its rituals, and its unspoken rules. Through these encounters, he starts to question his beliefs about love, relationships, masculinity, and comes to understand what “patriarchy” truly means.
He realizes that, deep down, he too carried the very form of masculinity now often labeled as “toxic.”
Raised with norms and reference points destabilized by a rapidly changing society, men today are faced with the challenge of redefining themselves.
There’s a kind of schizophrenia between their nature, their upbringing, and what the world now expects of them.
This testimony is an attempt at an answer — one that captures the ambiguity of being a man in today’s world.
A “masculine guide to free and consensual sexuality” in the age of #MeToo: both courageous and necessary.

Table of Contents

Part I: Setting the Scene
Chapter 1: Who Am I?
Chapter 2: The Meeting That Started It All
Chapter 3: Libertinism, First Steps…

Part II: Exploring the Libertine World
Chapter 4: Between Curiosity and Confrontation
Chapter 5: One World, Four Experiences
Chapter 6: The Other Side of the Coin
Chapter 7: A Few More Thoughts on the Subject
Chapter 8: What Do I Take from It? The Beginning of Deconstruction
Chapter 9: Testimonials

Part III: Continuing the Exploration and Deconstruction
Chapter 10: Experiences, Boldness and Revelations
Chapter 11: Sex, Pleasure, and Power in the Realm of Sade
Chapter 12: Desire and Libido
Chapter 13: Religion and Sex

Part IV: Deconstructing to Rebuild – Exploring Human Relationships
Chapter 14: Love and Its Illusions
Chapter 15: Monogamy and Open Relationships
Chapter 16: Discovering ENM – A Different Way to Love
Chapter 17: Transparency and Kindness in Relationships

Part V: Femininities – Restoring the Forgotten Balance
Preamble – Disclaimer
Introduction: A Fascination and a Learning Journey
Chapter 18: Awakening
Chapter 19: Revolt, Inspiring Figures, and Women’s Stories
Chapter 20: Women's Sexuality – Between Freedom and Oppression
Chapter 21: My Feeling for What's Next

Part VI: Masculinities – Understanding Toxicity
Preamble
Chapter 22: Deconstructing Toxic Masculinity
Chapter 23: Toxic Masculinity in Action
Chapter 24: Alternative Masculinities – What Future?

Part VII: Genders, Fluidities and Multiple Sexualities
Introduction
Chapter 25: Sexual Fluidity
Chapter 26: Gender Fluidity

Part VIII: Transmission – What I Want to Share
Freedom Through Understanding
Freedom Through Love and Kindness
Freedom Through Sex
Freedom Through Communication
Freedom Through Transmission

Final Word

Acknowledgments

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